To start off, there are many people that everyone knows you shouldn't date, like the typical jerk, player, drama queen, addict, and all those other stereotypes. But I want to go a little bit more deeper than that. So, these are the people who I think you should just avoid dating.
Don't be in a relationship with someone who:
1. Is JUST your best friend.
Yes, I know everyone says to "date/marry your best friend", and while that is a good thing for your significant other to be, that's not the only thing they should be. On top of being your best friend, you should also be attracted to them and have other feelings for them other than "best friend". You should be in love with them, not just love them. If I married someone who was just my best friend, I could have married like 8 different people (you know who you are), mostly being girls. So, I say avoid dating the "best friend" unless you see them as someone more than just your best friend.
2. Makes you do all the work.
I've been in relationships like this. They suck. It just plains sucks. And I think everyone has been in a relationship like this sometime in their life. You spend your money on them and they rarely spend money on you. You change your plans to their plans. You do what they want to do. You hang out with their family and rarely yours. And just everything seems to be about them while you're running around trying to make them happy. They're just making you do all the work in the relationship. And if you feel like that is the relationship you are in now, my advice-GET OUT NOW! It may be hard, but I can promise you that you can find someone who dedicates as much time and energy to you as you do to them.
3. Has only one good quality-their looks.
How many times do people have to say this. It's not worth it to date someone who's only good quality is their looks!!! Yes, they may be totally sexy and have a killer smile, but if they are boring or have a crappy personality, do you really want to be with them? Looks fade, honey. I'm the type of girl who loves hearing people talk about their significant others, why they like them, and how they met. And I find it SO sad when I ask someone about their lover, they say, "They're sooo hot" and that's it. They usually mention something about them either being super conceited, rude or not treating them very good, but for some reason it's okay just because they are attractive. Don't get me wrong, it's perfectly fine to be attracted to someone. Actually, it's great. Michael is the most attractive guy in the entire world to me. But, that shouldn't be the only positive you can say about the person you are dating.
4. Loves to make you jealous or piss you off.
I don't even think I need to go any further on this one. It's just messed up, they don't truly care about you, and you shouldn't be with them. Period.
5. Doesn't encourage you to be your best self.
Your significant other should always be supporting you and encouraging you in every way possible no matter what. Whether it's in school, religion, work, hobbies, skills, sports, or just absolutely ANYTHING! One small thing Michael does is to encourage me to get ready for the day sometimes. It's not like he's telling me to go put on some make up because I look ugly without it, he encourages me to do my hair, make up, and get dressed up because he knows that it boosts my self esteem so much more. Whenever we go out and I'm just in yoga pants, with a pony tail and a little make up, we have so much fun and he still thinks I'm beautiful. But the best nights ever are the ones when I get ready; when my hair is all curled and I spent time on my make up and I have a cute little outfit on. He knows that looking good makes me a lot happier and makes me feel a lot better about myself. Your significant other should always be encouraging you to do whatever would make you the happiest.
6. Doesn't listen to you.
Communication is key. Seriously. That's like the number one thing needed to make a relationship work. And if you find that your significant other never listens to you or doesn't care for your opinion, well then, your relationship will never work unless that gets fixed. It's as simple as that.
7. Doesn't want you to hang out with friends.
One thing I love about Michael is that is he 100% supportive of Girls' Night. He understands that I need a little time with my girls to gossip, laugh, take pictures, and talk....A LOT, just like I know that he needs his bowling or COD nights. Before we had each other, we had our friends. We love our friends. And you shouldn't be with someone who only wants you to hang out with them and never wants you to be with your friends. Being in a relationship like that completely drains you. Your significant other should keep in mind that they're not the only person in your entire life.
So, kind of going in an opposite perspective, here is the person you should be with. You should be with someone who is your best friend and more, someone who would do anything for you, someone who is good looking AND has a lot of other good qualities, someone who wants to make you happy, someone who encourages you to be your best self, someone who listens to you and someone who supports your friendships. That's the perfect person for you. Believe me. And it may take a while to find that person, but it will all be worth it in the end. Trust me. I found mine.
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