I want to
tell you all about an experience I just went through. I am a part of this group
on Facebook that supports women and was made to share advice, recipes, tips and
more. I loved this group at first and went on it often to see what I could
learn from it. However, like the rest of the world I feel lately, a lot of the
things being posted have become of a negative nature. Just the other day, I saw
a post about a wife being mad at a husband and venting to this group about it.
That made me very sad to read. So, then I read through the comments and all I
seemed to find was other girls complaining about their husbands with her and
talking about "I would kill him if he did this" or "I'd be so mad!" or talking about
their relationships in a very selfish way. So, I decided to give my two cents.
And boy, did I not get a good reaction. In no way was I being judgmental to any
of the other wives, but I guess everyone took it that way. In my comment, I
talked about how, as wives, we need to be more considerate of our husbands and
think about their needs and wants. But I guess, caring about my husband and
posting good things about him instead of venting bad things about him to
everyone in the world makes me a "judgmental person".
This post
did the opposite to me of what it did to everyone else. While other wives
talked about their husbands in a negative nature and acted like they are the
queen of the relationship, I thought about how much I love my husband and how I
want him to be happy and have everything he wants.
I think
men are given a lot less credit than they deserve. Men are often portrayed as
either a "stupid jock" or "nerd" and women talk about how
men's hobbies are a waste of time. If they play video games, it's a "waste
of time". If they love working on cars, it's a "waste of time".
If they love watching or playing sports, it's a "waste of time". If
they love guns, it's a "waste of time". Frankly, I am sick of hearing
it. However, if a guy says anything about our nails or hair appointments or
shopping trips or watching America's Next Top Model, then they are an
insensitive jerk. Enough with the feminist entitlement ladies. If we can love
things, why can't men? Why can't they spend their free time playing video games
or working out in the garage if they want, when we spend our free time watching
reality shows and getting pampered? It's selfish and doesn't make sense.
To have
an awesome husband, you need to treat him like an awesome husband. Thank him
for everything. Spoil him. Compliment him. I am a firm believer in the quote
"Do unto others as you would have others do to you". Why would your
"nerdy, video game addict husband" want to change your tire for you
in the rain? Or why would your husband who is "always working on stupid
cars" want to help you cook dinner? Wait for it.....they won't. Why would
you ever expect your husband to do things for you if you mock the things he
loves? I just don't understand this and I don't think I ever will.
Now, I
know what a lot of you might be thinking while reading this. "You're only
20 years old" or "You've only be married for 10 months" or
"Stop acting like you have the perfect marriage"; I've heard it all.
However, I have also heard numerous times that about how respectful I am towards
my husband. Of course, we do joke and fight just like every other couple,
however, I don't look at him and will NEVER look at him as just a "dumb
guy" that should wait on me hand and foot and spend all his hard earned
money on me. We are equal partners. We are husband and wife.
So, can
all you ladies reading this do me a huge favor? Think hard before you post
something negative about your husband. Think about the good things about him
before you post something little that annoyed you. Think about how your husband
would feel if he saw something negative about him that was publicly posted.
Men, I'm
on your side this time. Mike, I'm on your side EVERY time.
